Oh the sweet monotony of being a stay-at-home mommy and wife.
I mean, it is great, right? All the screaming kids, poopy diapers, ever-piling laundry and the endless running and screaming required to keep up with each one. Not to mention the fact that as I am typing this, my one year old has just stripped herself of her diaper and is happily emptying all of her dresser drawers.
me oh my…..that sweet monotony…
The day in and out of the same whiny, little munchkins and that feeling of loosing your own adult identity to take care of them.
I’m certain it sounds like a real bummer to those who have yet to have children. If that is you, I want to extend a polite warning. Parenting is a roller coaster, do not jump on unless you are prepared for some upside down, stomach churning bumps.
But, please hear me out before you become disheartened.
Children require so much of our time and effort, countless times many parents, including myself find themselves residing in a place where we feel so empty inside. I have my own philosophy as to why we often find ourselves in this rut. We are in essence pouring our very lives into our babies mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, and more. But, this is our calling!
Usually we limit a calling to something like being a pastor, teacher, or singer but, parenting is a calling in itself and this is why Psalms 127 3-5 says it like this, “Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warriors hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.”
Children are strength to us and to our ever growing ungodly world. We as parents have been given a high calling when it comes to child rearing. It is a high calling to raise young men and women to be what God wants them to be in this world. This is an exhausting task; hence the reason we often feel like life itself has been sucked out of us. Our children crave godly guidance and discipline.
It is necessary for parents to renew ourselves daily in prayer and studying God’s word. We are human and can not walk this road without the hand of Jesus holding ours.
We make mistakes too. We are living a sad lie if we think the opposite. We must renew ourselves daily by asking God to forgive us of our past mistakes and then ask for His guidance to help us do better. This action in itself helps us make strides toward the right kind of parenting. Renewing ourselves with prayer and God’s word is a refreshing way for us to stay on target with this high calling we all have.
That emptiness I referred to earlier is just proof that we are doing our calling to the best of our ability. When we feel empty, it means we have poured ourselves into our children in every sense of the word. This is the reason for the need of renewal. Our heavenly Father does not expect us to walk this road alone, in fact He knows we cannot successfully maneuver it. He desires for us to call on Him for help in every aspect of our lives, including parenting. Raising children is far from easy; it takes time, energy, patience, endurance and most of all a continual prayer life and relationship with Jesus. Encouraging ourselves in the Lord in every part of our lives is good for all that ails us.
I know I’m not the only one who feels sorry for the kid that has a bad season in life because of corrupt parenting. But, I also feel sorry for the parent. It happens to the best of us as we end up taking a wrong turn and our children follow our lead. It comes in many forms; divorce, dropping out of high school, using drugs/alcohol, etc. It happens slowly, but these things can eventually take over and consume lives in horrible ways. Everything we do effects those closest to us. Every move we make and every word we speak needs to be thought out carefully. That is why it is important for us to take our God-given task of parenting seriously.
Though mistakes may be made, it is never too late to change our ways and do better for our children. A lot of times we think our children are too far gone, but they are never out of reach of God Almighty. There are no age limits in God. Praying down walls and strongholds that Satan has put in the way is a good way to start. Nothing can stand in the way of that sweet name of Jesus. There is power in that name. It causes giants to fall, demons to flee and mountains to crumble. It has also been known to deliver a prodigal lost and undone back to his family. With that said, never let the fear of failure capture your prayers and will to do good. Your intentions to seek and do God’s will for your children are never in vain. Be broken and emptied unto your children continually.
Then, be refilled with Jesus and do it all over again.