Let’s face it, marriage is great, but adapting to living with someone you’ve never lived with for the first couple of years isn’t plain sailing. Of course you love them but those petty things they tend to forget or throw down can often be blown out of proportion in many ways. Both women and men are guilty of this because no human being is perfect. It’s easier to criticize the one closest to you when you see their faults. Women are often accused of nagging if anything at all is said about tiny things that tend to bother them. I’ve been there because I too am imperfect.
As a wife myself, I want to share a nugget that God has shown me in the past five years. Nagging wives will push their husbands away little by little, just the same as a husband that doesn’t give his wife the love that she needs. It is true and very biblical. In Proverbs 27 15-16; “A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.” This is one of the reasons God should be a part of every marriage. If He is not the foundation, eventually that marriage will dissolve and yes it can start with something as petty as nagging. If we pray continuously for our marriage, continue to love unconditionally and choose our battles wisely God is more than faithful to help us daily. putting Him first is the most important of all of these.
God created marriage to be a beautiful thing but our current world has perverted that union in so many immature ways. We find people divorcing for the silliest of problems. So many marriages fall apart at the seams and it’s usually because of those “little foxes that spoil the vine”. A lot of things that should be looked over can become overwhelming issues in a marriage. Don’t be the weak one and allow your vows to be trampled in the dust. Remember that God as your foundation is the place to start. Maybe God wasn’t your foundation when you first said your vows but you can certainly make Him that now. Take a stand today, if you haven’t already to pray for your spouse, yourself and your marriage, even if your spouse refuses to do so. The most hardened of hearts can be softened by the sweet and ever-pursuing love of God. I believe in time that your desire to have God as the foundation of your marriage will be so contagious that your other half will come on board too. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:12 that, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Meaning if God, your spouse and you are in unison then nothing can separate that love and that love can do amazing things. Just imagine how many marriages could be saved if husbands and wives would just put God first?